I had an interaction with a client last week centering on swimwear. Bikinis, specifically. You know, the whole, “I’m not fit enough to wear a bikini right now!” Because it’s summer, and vacations and lakes and pools and body image issues.
And my response was calm (as calm as tough-love-Kourtney can be), but something along the lines of the very popular cartoon, “Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body!”
But it’s the truth.
That’s not a thing just to piss people off and make them feel inadequate. It’s a thing because it’s 100% real life. It’s just a freaking swimsuit. It’s kinda like the shorts.
I get it. Our society has perpetuated this ridiculous ideal that all women should look like Gisele in a bikini. Or Scarlett Johansson. Or whoever else you personally perceive as having a perfect almost-naked body. But the truth is, none of those bodies we see so often are perfect or ideal or standard. (Not to mention the fact they’re all filtered and Photoshopped.)
I further questioned my client during our conversation about exactly what constitutes the “right” body to wear a bikini. I got an eye roll and a response that basically said, definitely not mine.
But why not?
The only thing that is keeping you from wearing a cute little two-piece number is your own insecurities. And the fear that some stranger is going to judge you. Some stranger? Really? Who gives a crap? Or maybe it’s someone you know. I really emphasize the who gives a crap on that one. If someone you call a friend or family is going to judge your body, you should probably rethink hanging out with them. There are better people to go to a pool party with.
And I’m sure you’re thinking it’s easy for me to sit here and say these things, while I look pretty lean and fit in mine. I’m not trying to pooh-pooh your feelings. Because I understand that they are human nature, I suffer from my own insecurities. We’ve all got our issues, and we’re all entitled to them. To be completely honest, on our cruise, I kind of felt like I was the one who didn’t fit in among all the different bikini bodies – short, tall, curvy, lumpy, smooth, muscular, thin, whatever.
But every single one of us rocked it anyway.
It’s really time that you did too. There is literally nothing holding you back from giving your belly a tan. Let it see the light of day, for Pete’s sake. Confront the insecurities, break them down, notice they’re probably irrational, and then go to the beach in your bikini.